Empath Experience
Women are naturally empathetic- although some are consciously more ‘aware’ of this than others – empaths. Yin embodied. Yin energy being that of creation, sensitivity, feeling and perception.
You don’t have to be an empath or a highly sensitive person to have strong perceptions and intuitive feelings but for those of us who are then these, rather than be fleeting or subtle, seem to scream out at us in a voice that can, quite literally, affect our entire physical bodies and being.
Does this mean that we always and automatically listen however? No! Of course not!
In fact to the contrary, Empaths and sensitive peoples are so by their nature, well, empathetic… they have a tendency to make it their mission to ‘fix’. To address and to seek to balance the strong emotional states that they sense from others emotional turmoil and upset. In addition to this ‘fixing’ they appear to take on the sole – soul – responsibility for not only making everything better but for somehow it happening in the first place, as such for making everyone else happy.
That’s just what I did. Right from being a child I acted the ‘peace maker’ trying to negotiate reconciliation for emotional states that were either out in the open or ones that were unspoken but I sensed never the less. Countless women that I have worked with developed the same pattern of behaviour, aspiring to fix and balance emotions that were really beyond and external to them and at times, as a child, beyond their comprehension.
This behaviour then translates into a life pattern attracting relationships and situations that need ‘fixing’ forming a soul pattern of turning ourselves inside out to fix things for others.
Joke is though…it doesn’t work and the relationships attracted, rather than be fixable are ones that crush and control; the empath far from fixing often becomes the victim…lost amid trying to make everyone else happy whilst being crushed and hurt themselves… Living the role others expect and project, trying to be what others want them to be…to keep the peace…to make others happy. Whilst inside their light quietly grows dimmer, the often free spirited core of who they are willingly stepping into the cage.
Sadly it is often the empath, the highly sensitive woman who becomes the abused…but would she admit that? Probably not, maybe not even to herself, not until the situation gets really out of hand. After all, she can fix it right? She ‘gets’ and can feel the pain and emotional state that her partner, parent, ‘friend’ is in and can see through the crappy behaviour (and even excuse any violation) seeing the ‘good’ of that person/abuser and believing that she can bring that good to the fore.
And so… for many the precedent is set…the empath becomes trapped and caged…and can run the same program, the same pattern of behaviour over and over…a fractured skull here… pushed out of a car there…and being launched at with a bread knife somewhere else… and in each instance the abuser screeching ‘…look what you are making me do!’
Really.
When all you were actually trying to do was to keep the peace. To be you.
Empowerment takes courage. It takes courage to stand in your convictions and to finally connect to that inner flickering flame and through nurturing ‘self’ set it ablaze with light… For when you do, it appears to cause destruction all around you – something which goes against an empaths’ core ethos – seeming to be the CAUSE of another’s pain and this can be a challenge to reconcile within yourself.
But there comes a point when you have no choice. For the sake of your own survival and sanity you have to reconnect to your core and stand tall. And through standing in your own power you are finally able to break patterns and to free yourself, transforming your life experience into one that is positive and reflective of the real you. This shift may not happen overnight…and you may have to work through supressed emotions and thoughts…but it can and will happen. All it takes is that one small step of saying ‘No; this is not acceptable.’ …and then…like the river…Yin energy flows and carries you to new places and experiences.
The main message then…trust your perception. Always listen to your intuition but also always remain connected to your core. And if… your intuition whispers…or screams… that something is wrong…then IT IS.
Enjoy the journey X