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Date: 31st October 2019
What we resist persists.
What we resists persists… true enough and accepted by many who seek to move forward within their lives. Perhaps seeking changes at work, or within their relationships. The phrase supports the notion that rather than avoid facing the dynamic in question you seek to change it, it tackle dynamics head on and as such let go of ’clinging’ to the old for fear of change…
And yet the phrase is reflective of so much more…
Which is why many individuals seek change…seek to ‘fix’ the problem and yet nothing actually changes long term. In the long term they go on to attract similar dynamics within further jobs, their next relationship…or the weight they lost from their diet piles back on….
This is because primarily their resonance has not changed…they are still emitting the same subliminal frequency which attracts more of the same.
The fundamental reason for this is that the individual is not connected to their core and does not embrace and love him or herself enough…not truly, wholly and unconditionally.
There are common traps associated with change.
One. You can try to fix the problem. Make the changes you identify as being required and initially this has a feel good factor associated with it. You start to feel empowered as you have made changes and can ‘see’ a difference. But what tends to happen is that this is short lived…old patterns of behaviour trigger and you come to the realisation that although perhaps different people are now involved, you are actually in truth experiencing the same kind of emotional state…frustration and disillusionment can then set in which compound any feelings of ‘not enough’, ‘not worthy’ or of being ‘a failure’
Two. You analyse your feelings…You seek to ‘understand’ the patterns that you experience…to understand why you attract the situations and relationships that you do…now whilst self-reflection is a great tool and does has its advantages…what can happen is that the individual can get ‘stuck in their analysis…they ‘overthink’ the dynamics of the ‘past’ and as such keep dragging their energies into the past…into the old…and so keep themselves stuck in the quagmire… self-loathing can result…feelings of ‘what is the point I always make the wrong choices…’ and again rather than feeling free and empowered ‘over thinking’ can result in disempowerment and energetic paralysis setting in. It is important to remember IT ISNT ALWAYS YOUR FAULT… sure you have to be responsible and you have accountability for your actions and re-actions to external events…however, reflection without awareness of what you are doing can result in internalisation and self-blame….both of which create tension and heighten stress within your body and mind…in effect keeping you ‘stuck’
Three. You disown your feelings and externalise completely…you blame others and the dynamics that you have encountered as being the sole reason for how you are feeling and for what you are experiencing. This in truth is the ultimate trap and the possibly the most paralysing…and yet sadly, for the majority, it is the most common mistake they make. Believing it is always someone else’s fault quite simply ties you in one place on every level of your being. You may as well lock yourself in a cell and throw away the key… if you take this as your perception you are totally disempowered… whereas if you take ownership… seek to explore possibilities and perceptions…you free yourself for change and new opportunities.
So what is the one core element that can free you from your shadows and change almost, if not every, area of your life?
Loving Yourself.
Rather than ‘fixing’ external problems you change dynamics and also totally embrace your feelings… you change your inner resonance and so utilise the inner guidance system of feelings to direct you to healthier more nurturing opportunities that reflect the core you.
Rather than analysing and kidding yourself that this is freeing you from the behaviour patterns of the past…you recognise that the actual process of over analysis is actually in itself a form of resistance…and
What we resist persists…
The way forward is to totally and utterly accept who you are at your core and totally and utterly embrace the beauty and feelings of this person…of YOU
Easy… Right??
But how do you actually do this?
Listen to your body…to your feelings… the answers are always within, for life happens through you…
Namaste
Enjoy your journey X